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The Ups and Downs of Major Life Decisions

You’ve bought a house and you’re signing the purchase and sale agreement. Was this the right decision? You’re getting married in three months and it’s just now set in that you’re losing your last name. It feels significant. You’re about to have a baby and you’re a first-time dad. Congratulations, everything about life as you know it is about to change! Emotions in response to major life changes (even those we consider positive) can sometimes set in like a visit from a UFO in the wilderness: unexpected, exciting, and conflicting. Do you grab a camera or run and hide? When it comes to difficult or overwhelming emotions, it’s important to experience them rather than run away from what you're feeling. Even when unexpected, anger, bitter-sweetness, and grief are all part of the human experience. When big changes are in play, give yourself space for a good cry or a poignant conversation about what you’re feeling with a friend or partner.


Daphne Bastien, LMHC, received her master's degree in clinical mental health counseling with a specialization in trauma studies from Lesley University. She spent the past several years in an array of mental health settings including community mental health, middle schools and high schools, universities, and nonprofit. She has worked with a range of clients (from age five to age eighty) with a variety of needs, including depression, borderline personality disorder, dissociative identity, anxiety, post-traumatic stress, and many other disorders.

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